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When your neighbor has more sex than you…

I’m staying in a dorm over the summer, for an internship  I have in the city. It is not too demanding, which is good, because I have to study for the LSAT and do research for my thesis during this time as well. And even though my vacation was meant to be “low key” so far it has been anything but.

With my family here for the past month, I haven’t gotten much “me time,” and to make things worse, my boyfriend is in another state. For the next six years.

…As if that wasn’t enough, my RA (who also happens to be my next door neighbor) seems to enjoy reminding me of what I do not have. Namely, sex. While she has been enjoying herself (rather loudly, I should mention,) I  have been trying to find new and innovative ways to repress memories and make myself at least temporarily deaf. Any suggestions?

Our Being, United

I mentioned in a previous post how important my music box was to me. But there are a myriad of objects that are important, and that make up our being. Things we turn to everyday, that bring us comfort, and that little by little, piece who we are. Here are a few of mine:

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1. My notebook and makeup case. I jot down my grocery list in the note area, and save important stubs in the accordion folder. I got the notebook at the Metropolitan Art Museum’s store.

2. Close up of my makeup case. I like muted, soft colors, but the shimmer keeps it fresh and young.

3. My agenda (pink) and diary (blue notebook). I managed to bargain with the store clerk to give me a discount on the agenda, since it was the one they had in display. I’ve had my diary for over four years. I do not write much in it. Instead, I glue important ticket stubs or remembrances.

4. My copy of Plato’s works (yes, all of them). Below that, “Sexuality, Gender and the Law” the 2009 casebook. Two of my heaviest (and biggest) books. They have also been two of the most interesting reads.

5. My teddy-bear, Jerry (he’s gay!) I also have a trans-species bear, Theodore, who is sometimes a bear, and sometimes a bunny.

What are some of your special objects?

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Sense Memorya

I was recently walking across campus, on a windy and humid day. The charged air made the smell of the freshly cut grass seep out (they invest on maintaining the lawns for graduation, but when it comes to the upkeep of dorms?…) The fresh smell and the cool breeze and the somewhat hazy, somewhat sunny day reminded me of Argentina in late summer. I only lived there as a very young child, but my memories of walking down the street from my grandmother’s apartment are my most distinctive.When the sun shines a certain way, the sky turns certain blue… I dont know where I am anymore. How far can memories take you, in miles, in years, in lives past?

While visions, so deceitful, fly past.

Sky from my window, when I was younger

A Room with a View

Over the years, I’ve had my share of bedrooms. Since my family moved a lot, I would get a new bedroom on average every two years. I remember often going “house hunting” with my mother to new countries we had been assigned, my main concern was always which bedroom was to be mine. There is something to be said about the whole process of looking at stranger’s homes–often while their furniture and personal belongings are still there–and picturing your own life in that space.

Room with a View

My dorm room sophomore year

How do we create our own spaces? How do we create a home? Is it just stuff, or is there something else, something we have to build, out of the four walls?

The picture above is of my university dorm room, the only place I might venture to call a home today. It might not be very visible, but in the windowsill is one of my most important belongings: a pink music box. My grandmother gave it to me when I was eight. Soon after I turned nine, my family told me we were moving again. In a rush to pack up, they didn’t let me attend the last few days of classes, so that I could use those days to pack up instead. In my hurry to help reduce my room into boxes, I let my music box fall from the high shelf in the closet where my mom kept it.

A small piece from the corner where the music box hit the ground broke off. The inside wall, separating the music-mechanism and mirror which held dancing-magnetic ballerinas, broke off too. I was devastated. Another object mangled by the constant moving. Another piece of me, to be left behind.

I managed to fix the box with stick-glue, crudely, as best as my nine-year-old hands could. It still stands today, the glue has turned yellow, the inside wall piece has since gone missing. Only one of the two ballerinas remain. The music box stands where previous rooms have fallen, where other windowsills held it, where other light shone through. The space changes, but the heart doesn’t. And that to me, is home.